CHAPTER I
INTRODUCTION
A. Background
Given the number of people who experience a drastic change when they lose the spirit or collectively, the number of people experiencing despair, therefore, we discuss Lost Or Change.
The purpose of our titles are what will be done in times of desperation it upon ourselves to change for better or lost in despair?
B. Statement Of Problem
There are some people who crave the power to achieve happiness in the midst of scours powerful waves of life, there are also many young men and women who are seeking their identity.
There are many people who committed suicide because of despair, all of it due to loss of confidence in the human heart. And not only that, not a few people who committed suicide because of lost ideals, even when it is all upon us, that is where we are required to think positive, optimistic undergo a thing, kind thought to Allah, keep the spirit, and not to lose ideals, it is in accordance with the words of Mahatma Gandhi (Indian Motivator):
If you lose the treasure, then you have lost something valuable. If you lose the honor and you have lost something that can not be purchased. But if you lose the ideals, then you really have lost entirely.
C. Purpose
Our goal is to discuss all of us are aware of what to do when we have lost everything we had hoped, and we realize we kalu is a very imperfect beings and given the largest and most beautiful gift from God Almighty, like a mind, spiritual intelligence, strength of mind subconscious which is connected with the universe. How does a person control his or her life and reality is the Self Management.
D. Methodology
This type of research is qualitative research. Kirk and Miller in Moleong (2002:3) states that qualitative research is a particular tradition in social science that fundamentally depends on the observations in humans in the area and berhububgab with these people in the language and terminology.
The exact method for this research is descriptive method. According to Nazir (1988: 63) “descriptive method is a method in researching the status of a human group of an object, a set of conditions, a system of thought or a class of events in the present”. Descriptive research purpose is to create descriptive, painting a picture or a systematic, factual, and accurate information about facts, properties and relationships among the phenomena investigated (Nazir, 1988: 63). In this study will be described what to do when people have lost their ideals and self-confidence.
CHAPTER II
DISCUSSION OF
A. Based on the Opinions People
This opinion we got from some people that we interviewed, either directly or indirectly (via email), and our question is: “What do you do when you lose everything you expect and you aspire”?
1. Nurhasnah, M.sI (Faculty lecturer. Tarbiyah. IAIN Imam Bonjol)
“I’ve never experienced it, so I do not know the answer, but whatever it is, the problem whatever it is, leave it to Allah, cry to God in tahajjud brother. Usually after that we will calm the mind and what will be done so clearly. “
2. Eko Ramadtya dictatorial (a blind, Blogger, Motivator, Writer, Journalist)
“I do not have a vision like brothers and sisters, it happened when I was born in this world, really is a very hard for me to live this life. But because there is a strong resolve and aspiration to the skies I can finally do something like normal human beings. This is one of the most greatest gift that I received from God Almighty apart from my family who are always eager to help me achieve everything I want. “
“Nothing is impossible in this world. Not until you try. Not before you fight. Not before you muster all the existing capabilities. “
B. Based on the book
This opinion we got from various books written by writers throughout the world is reliable.
1. Changed or Lost (the work of the Mahdi Wahid)
In this book, Wahid said, if we want to make real change then the most basic that we should have to realize our desires are the ideals. All the goals and desires will not be achieved without ideals. However, Wahid also put something more than ideals, namely the belief that what will happen tomorrow is much better than what we get today.
Positive words also will affect the other terms and serves as a pointer towards a very admirable. Sound ideals will be strong and be positive words within the culprit, to be able to destroy all the curb and destroy the lives of all ancient traditions. All that will happen in today’s modern era.
Oscar Hammerstein changing the angle of view by saying,
“Perhaps, one of the causes of sadness in today’s modern era is the number of people who are desperate because they can not reach his goal. That’s because the sound ideals are very weak and people are often said his goal very little. “
Always remember the goal is an expectation that taught the Prophet through his saying,
“There is no infectious disease, no divination, but I like the optimism.”
2. Enjoy Your Life (by Dr.. Muhammad al-’Areifi)
The extent of the mistakes made by humans is different. Only, for any such errors can still be treated or repaired. Indeed, sometimes the repair can not fix the 100% damage to a person caused by something wrong. However, at least it has improved many things that damage.
Trouble is, many people are not interested and tried to make amends in doubt due to his ability to make improvements. And sometimes the way we deal with an error itself.
3. Enjoy Your Life 2 (the work of Dr.. Muhammad al-’Areifi)
“As long as you have to live it, enjoy it”.
The sentence was spoken by the author to a young person with diabetes. She was drinking tea without sugar and complained about his condition.
That’s true, just live life. No time to grieve. Go live with the remnants of power.
The Prophet with his companions set out for a battle, they were short of food and feel tired. He was ordered to collect the remaining food supplies. He then unfurled his turban, among them there are who give a date, two dates, a loaf of bread, so that eventually all the supplies gathered in his turban. Then, they eat together and enjoy it. Perhaps they are not satisfied with what they eat, but at least he had eaten something to prop her stomach. Surely goodness that comes from what is available.
4. 12 Step Self-management (the work Aribowo Prijosaksono Marlan Mardianto)
There are many problems faced by humans, it depends how otang are taking a stance in menhadapinya. Our lives will be active or passive, creative or dull, happy or sad, hopeful or living in despair, it all depends on how we direct our attitudes. And introduce more people to read the stories of what works and leave the readings on the criminal because it will affect us.
Understand that the difficulty merupakn part of the perfection of life when coupled with the right attitude will give peace in times of deep disappointment. In little time, while we’re disappointed often our parents say “Do not be discouraged, son, there might be something bigger waiting behind this failure,” and yes: the failure is simply a delayed success, a stepping stone that we have the power larger to achieve a higher level of success, and failure is a very cruel teacher and an enemy of all mankind, but will always be the best teacher.
5. Eliminate Negative Thinking Positive Thinking And Always (Dr. Ibrahim Elfiky)
Negative thoughts it produces a rich something that is not good for us, because in addition to distance ourselves to God, it also distanced us from the ideals and cause psychological problems, health, family and social issues. Negative thoughts are also buried values and threatening our lives kelansungan.
Positive thinking is not always realize what we want, but at least positive thinking is more effective than negative thinking. Eight positive nerpikir testament:
1.1. Calmness and a daily devotional
1.2. Self-development
1.3. The assertion could be justified
1.4. Time positive
1.5. Determining goals
1.6. Conscious perception
1.7. Fully responsible
1.8. Strong decision.
What we are experiencing today is the impact of our minds yesterday. What we will experience tomorrow is the impact of our thoughts at this time. Mind that we are imagining is currently creating our future lives. We think could or could not, both would be correct. When we think can, God willing, we can. But if we think can not, God willing, we will not.
No one can stop the positive mentality to achieve his goal. Vice versa, there will not be nothing in this world that can help people who are mentally negative.
Starting today, let’s leave the negative thoughts, think positive and hold ourselves to Allah, it will make us even more excited in running things.